An Interactive Guide to Vaginal Erogenous Zones and Your Pleasure
There are so. many. erogenous. zones. Thighs, neck, lips, feet, hands, scalp, nipples, genitals — erogenous zones exist all over the body and are unique to each person. Certain zones may feel great to you and not to others, and your preferences may change over time.
We’ve created an interactive guide and map to navigate various vaginal erogenous zones near and relating directly to the vagina that are potentially very sensitive and worth stimulating. This is designed to be used as your own personal atlas for sexual play and exploration.
Finding an erogenous zone is an exploratory process — a discovery of what feels good for your body and what feels good for your partner. If you’re open and curious, then you can use this information like a map to guide your own personal discovery of pleasure.
“Eros” is Greek for love, and “genous” is English, meaning producing. Women’s Digital Health Clinic, Rory’s definition of an erogenous zone is:
“An erogenous zone is an area of the body with a heightened sensitivity that can produce a sexual response when stimulated. Erogenous zones are extra sensitive due to concentrations of nerve endings in these areas.”
The more you can explore and find new areas to experience sensitivity and pleasure, the more full and explosive your sensual and sexual life can be.
Remember, every body is unique, different, and extraordinary and you are not “supposed” to feel any certain way, just let your body tell you what it wants. Welcome your body as it is, with love and tenderness, and you are already on your way to pleasure.
The Brain: an unexpected vaginal erogenous zone
Our first vaginal erogenous zone is the brain, the active and complex organ that interprets our sensory experience. The human brain receives information from the senses, the heart, and the limbic systems and interprets these messages into action, choices and agency.
Our brain is the control center that reacts to external stimuli and dictates our attention. Focused attention, in turn, determines how emotionally present or absent you are in the moment, affecting the emotional response.
Feelings of inadequacy, distrust, body shame, or even mental busyness can prevent closeness and connection with yourself or with a partner. Personal hang-ups may/can accompany you into your intimate moments, preventing you from relaxing into the pleasure. When this happens, consider the tone and quality of your thoughts toward yourself, your partner, and your life to determine what is affecting your arousal.
When exploring your erogenous zones, it’s important not to pressure yourself by expecting certain outcomes — how your body or your response “should” be or what “should” happen. Let your body be the guide, and be patient with yourself.
Practice: An affirmation
Whether planning a sweet night with a lover, or a spontaneous, sexy encounter, prepare for that intimacy by focusing your attention on your body through a short and simple meditative exercise:
Take three deep breaths. Breathe in 4 seconds… and out 4 seconds…
Feel all of the sensations in and around you.
Breath into it.
In this moment, if only for this moment, let yourself be exactly where you are.
Listen to yourself.
Believe and trust whatever your body is telling you.
Place the palm of your hand on your pubic bone.
Spread your fingers and make contact with your body through your fingertips.
Let it rest here as you continue to breath, bringing your focus to this part of your body with every breath.
Think or say:
My desire is mine. My desire is authentic and valid.
Your pubic bone is a resting place. You can come back here at any moment.
Let’s move down
With another breath, we move ahead.
The clitoris is the star of vaginal erogenous zones, and well-known as a source of pleasure and sensation. For all the attention and PR we give the clit, it is actually still a very under-recognized part of the body, whose anatomy extends far beyond what many people realize.
The size, shape, and style of the clitoris a great deal. Some are the size and shape of a pearl, some a cornichon, some a baby carrot. Sometimes the clitoris extends beyond the outer lips and sometimes it doesn’t. They are all different colors and like different kinds of stimulation. This is all normal and wonderful. Your body’s features are unique to you and you should revel in that!
Getting to know your clitoris
Essentially, the “zone” of the clitoris is actually more like 3 or 4 zones that are enmeshed and overlapping with several other zones, and all of them speak to each other to enhance your pleasure. You can think of them as the internal clitoris and the external/visible clitoris. (Click on the clitoris on our interactive map to see this!)
The clitoris is made of erectile tissue. When we become aroused, blood rushes to this area and the tissues become engorged. When aroused, you can get clitoral erections!
When you look at your vulva, you will see where your outer lips come together at the very center of your pubic bone. This is called the front commissure, and when you look below this you will see a change in texture and color where the hood of your clitoris is. The hood, when pulled back reveals the head of the shaft, called the clitoral glans, which is the area that most people are familiar with stimulating. For many, direct stimulation of the exposed shaft or glans can be too intense and touching the area around and over the hood is more pleasurable.
The clitoral hood, shaft, and glans make up the external part of the clitoris. They are nerve dense and excitatory parts of your body that exist purely for pleasure.
The internal parts of the clitoris that you do not see include the clitoral bulbs and the clitoral legs, also called the crura. The legs extend deep into your pelvis and the bulbs, which are almost entirely erectile tissue, reach from the shaft of your clitoris down and around your urethral and vaginal openings. Both of these parts extend pleasure far beyond the “button” of your clitoris so that it radiates through your pelvic area.
The bulbs can often be felt underneath your outer lips when you are aroused. Because of these underlying bulbs, the outer lips themselves are their own erogenous zone.
Practice: Pressure + Play
Slide or bring the heel of your hand to the hood of your clitoris. Breathe in and apply some pressure to your liking. Do this a couple times.
When you feel ready, use your fingers and fingertips to touch and explore the vertical ridge of your clitoral shaft. What is its shape? Where is it sitting? What sort of touch are you enjoying?
Rub and tease your shaft/clitoral glans, over and under the hood. Breathe in. Does it feel good to touch it directly?
Spread your fingers and lay them flat over your outer labia. Alternate pressure between your fingers. Does it feel good? Can you feel yourself and your skin rub and tease the clitoral bulbs under your outer labia?
Visualize: the clitoral legs are expanding. Blood is rushing to your outer lips. Keep breathing.
Inner Lips (Labia)
The inner lips are erectile tissue as well. They engorge with blood and become hot, swollen, deeper in color, and very sensitive to the touch when aroused. As previously discussed in the clitoris section, the inner lips are connected to and covering the clitoral bulbs.
This area is immensely pleasurable and can warm up the body for deeper play or create lasting and satisfying sensation and orgasm all on its own. This tissue is more delicate and sensitive than the outer lips. It is a great place to stroke and stimulate before any penetration. Wetness is an important friend to the inner lips– it is not a place to mess with if there is no lubrication. We highly recommend using lube. When this area is slick, you can spend a lot of time here warming and opening up the whole pelvic area.
Practice: Tug, stroke, tease, lick, lubricate
With your next breath, move your fingers from the outer labia to your inner labia. Notice the texture change. The delicate skin. The warmth bringing energy and sensitivity to the area. This is a great moment to apply (or reapply) lube.
With a partner? Ask if they will lick you here.
Touching yourself? Re-apply that lube. What feels good? Do you like the stroking sensation? Pressure? Pace?
Spread your fingers again into a peace sign and slide them up and down the inner lips. Moving up and around the hood of the clitoris and back down. TOCA’s lube is delicious and safe to ingest. Think of this as a waterslide. An invitation for feeling a bit more intimate with your body.
The V-spot is a very important part of sexual discovery for vagina holders. This is the gateway to the vaginal canal and the entry point for penetration. “V” stands for vaginal vestibule, which is the opening/entrance into the vagina. It is the area past the inner lips at the base of the vaginal canal. Once again, we are all different, but for many, not only are there a lot of nerve endings in this part of the body, but they tend to be very close to the surface.
This vaginal erogenous zone is so important because it’s essentially the indicator of whether or not your body is feeling excited and ready for penetration. If penetration is something you desire, then you need to make sure your body is at the stage where that door is open. When the vagina is ready to receive, it will almost suck in whatever you’re finding pleasure from, whether it be a penis, a toy, hands, or a mouth.
Wetness is essential. We highly recommend lube even if you produce plenty of your own, because it will allow for more lasting pleasure, less friction, and helps you avoid tearing, micro-lacerations, or tension that will cause discomfort later. Penetration requires some warming up. As you play and become aroused, the uterus and cervix will move upward, and your vaginal canal will expand. This helps facilitate deeper more satisfying penetration and diminish any pain or unnecessary friction.
Practice: An invitation
Gently edge your fingers around your vaginal opening. Breath deep. Move back and forth between the clitoral shaft, labia, and this v-spot. Use the length of your finger and then your fingertips to outline your vaginal opening. Where does it feel best?
How is your vaginal opening responding? With your fingers, you are dancing around the V-spot, waiting for the invitation to enter. If or when it says “yes,” slowly begin to penetrate. Breath in deeply, bringing even more focus. Dance between the external and internal.
The G-spot is a well-known and highly marketed area of the body. It is the root of the internal clitoris, located on the anterior (front) of the vaginal wall. Although everyone is different, for many the G-spot is approximately 5-7 centimeters in.
The G-spot typically has a more ribbed texture to the touch. It is thought to be connected to many erogenous zones, including the clitoral body, and crura, or legs of the clitoris, the urethral sponge, and Skene’s Glands. This G-spot exemplifies how many vaginal erogenous zones are interconnected and overlapping, creating an elegant and complex system of sensation, engorgement, and pleasure.
Stimulating this erogenous zone is often the key to “squirting,” or ejaculating, because of its proximity and relationship to the urethral sponge and Skene’s Glands. The urethral sponge sits behind the pubic bone, right on top of the root of the internal clitoris, and the Skene’s Glands sit on either side of it. When these glands are stimulated, they fill with a prostate-like fluid that comes out of the urethral opening during vaginal ejaculation.
Some people feel ashamed or embarrassed by ejaculation, but it can be a deeply satisfying experience.To relax and explore without shame, make sure to breathe and focus on your breath. If you are unable to squirt (whether just this time or ever), or you don’t experience pleasure in G-spot stimulation, don’t worry about it! There are so many other vaginal erogenous zones and ways to experience pleasure. You can come back and try again anytime.
Practice: Come hither
On your next breath, as you penetrate through the V-spot and into your vaginal canal, settle in. Feel the growing warmth. The slight pulsing and engorgement of the tissues.
If you feel interested, let another one or two fingers join the other. Listen to your body. Let your body welcome your fingers. Take your other hand or a toy and continue to play. When you are ready, shift your hand so that your fingers are inside and your palm hovers over your clit. Now, hook your fingers up toward your pubic bone.
Gesture “come hither” with your fingers. Do it once. Breathe. Do it again. Find your speed and your rhythm. What does the texture feel like? You can come in and out from this position. You are the only one that knows how much pressure to apply. Play around and notice when your body responds with “yes, more!”
The A-spot, known as the “Anterior Fornix Erogenous zone” is very close to the cervix and rests just above the bladder, past the G-spot on the same anterior wall of the vagina. Stimulating the A-spot during sex will be easiest using fingers or a toy because of its depth and angle, and in positions that allow for deeper penetration. It can be a G-spot stimulator like this, or a more classic curved dildo like this elegant beaut.
The location of your cervix changes its location and sensitivity throughout the menstrual cycle and/or state of arousal. It will feel very different during sexual penetration at different times in your cycle. Typically, the cervix is softer and higher in the vagina during ovulation, and in a lower more rigid position during and after menses. Pressure on this erogenous zone can trigger a deeper, cervix-focused orgasm.
To really explore deeper what kinds of orgasms you can have, try some different positions that reach this vaginal erogenous zone. For some folks, it can be pleasurable to approach it hard and fast, but start out with a gentle, exploratory approach. Then, when you find what you’re looking for you can shift into whatever you like best!
Practice: Turn onto stomach
You are warm, stimulated, and aroused. Your breath and vagina welcome penetration. With each breath, sink deeper into the vaginal canal. More breath allows more expansion and less resistance.
You can stay where you are or turn onto your stomach and approach from the back. See how that feels different. Does it excite you and intrigue more pleasure?
For another approach, try sitting or laying on your side, with your leg extended above you. With your breath, reach. See what new places you can find. See how it feels. If you’re using a finger, how does the tissue feel? Can you tickle and find any sensitive spots?
It’s all about your rhythm and pleasure.
The O-spot (sometimes called the C-spot) is located close to and directly on the cervix, and can be a tricky place to reach. It is associated with the A-spot because of its proximity to the cervix.
The cervix is at the base of the uterus deep inside the vaginal canal. The O-spot is behind the cervix on the posterior wall of the vagina, and can be hard to reach. The key to stimulating the O-spot is via pressure, which can trigger a Cervical Orgasm.
Like the A-spot, exploring the O-spot is a chance to try out some different positions to see what kinds of orgasms you can have. Try getting on your stomach and approaching from the back, or sitting on your side with your leg lifted. A hard and fast approach can be really pleasurable for some folks, but starting out with gentle explorations can help you find what you like best!
The O-spot is the source of much of the pleasure during vaginal penetration. But, some people are very sensitive to having their cervix touched, and too much banging against the cervix can cause bruising and pain. This vaginal erogenous zone can also be accessed during anal play, because of its posterior location in the vagina. But we’ll save this discovery for another day!
Practice: Deep exploration
With your next breath, bring your focused attention and penetrative object toward the back part of the vagina.
Every breath is communicating with your body. Do you want deep, firm, pulsing pressure? Is your body asking for more? Less? Listen to your or your lovers’ body and play with the speed and rhythm, starting out light and slow.
Vaginal Erogenous Zones are, ultimately, just one part of eros.
If you’ve had fun with this guide and you want to continue your own personal adventure, consider spending some time in and around the anus and other erogenous zones on the body. Explore your inner thighs, your nipples, behind your knees, and your neck, your lips, around your mouth and tongue, and your scalp, which is covered in tons of nerve endings. They, too, play a wonderful part in arousal and eroticism.
Some final tips + reminders:
- The brain is the first organ of pleasure, and engaging the brain by playing with a sense of suggestion, anticipation, teasing, and drawing near to any of these erogenous zones is an excellent way to prime the body for all the play that is to come.
- Move around the most sensitive parts of vaginal erogenous zones before touching them directly — after the buildup, your own body or your partner will likely be begging for more.
- Change up what you are doing. No one likes only one focus/technique for the entire sexual/sensual experience. Try shifting between different areas, combining different kinds of touch, changing pressure and quality of touch, speed, direct and indirect approaches.
And most importantly, listen to your body and your lovers’ body for all the guidance you really need.